Sexual violence
Myths and Reality about the Sexual Violence
MYTH: If you are not physically forced, it means that there is no sexual violence.
REALITY: The violator can force you in many ways manipulation, force, threats, he can deliberately drug you or make you drunk.
MYTH: If there has been no penetration or sexual act, there is no sexual violence.
REALITY: There is sexual violence when someone forces you to:
watch his genitals;
show parts of your body;
play a sexual act while he is watching you;
he threatens you with raping.
MYTH: If it has happened once, that does not mean sexual violence I just have to forget it.
REALITY: The consequences of sexual violence are devastating and continued, no matter how many times it has happened. It should not be ignored.
MYTH: You cannot say that relatives, such as husbands as well as friends have forced you sexually, because the existence of a relation makes it impossible.
REALITY: Violence means violence, no matter who is drawn into it. No one has the right to hurt you.
MYTH: People who go to dangerous places and are dressed in provocative clothes are asking for it. It is no wonder that they have been forced.
REALITY: Nothing that you do or say provokes violence, even if you have made an incorrect assessment.
MYTH: Unwanted but not exactly sexual actions are not sexual violence. ( For example: Giving an enema; examining how my girls breast is growing; watching while making the toilet; entering while having a bath or a shower.)
REALITY: These things are not normal and they are violence.
MYTH: If you have survived after sexual violence, you can never be bound in a strong intimate relation, because you will never cope with the consequences.
REALITY: Many women, who have survived after sexual violence, have coped with the consequences and have intimate relations, filled with love. There are a lot of ways for you to cope strategies for self-support and self-cure, groups, individual and group therapy, which give assistance to the victims and help them to establish relations with loving and supportive people.
MYTHS:
All the women want to be raped!
Not a single woman can be raped against her will!
She was asking for it!
Knowing that you will be raped in any case, at least you relax and enjoy yourself!
MYTHS ABOUT WOMEN:
Women want to be raped;
Women make false accusations of raping against innocent men;
Women provoke violence against them, when visiting definite places, drink alcohol, etc.
MYTHS ABOUT MEN:
Men have by nature stronger sexual desires and needs;
Once sexually excited, men cannot control themselves;
If the man is sexually excited and cannot end the sexual act, it is possible to resort to physical violence.